“Men who want to be feminists do not need to be given a space in feminism. They need to take the space they have in society & make it feminist.”
Kelley Temple, National Union of Students UK Women’s Officer (via feministkitsch)
Men who want to be feminist already have a space in feminism. It’s called being allies and it’s a beautiful and useful space.
Unless you think that men cannot have a space in feminism. But then you lose any right to complain if the men who want to be your allies don’t follow your script. Or that men oppose feminist issues.
(I wouldn’t call that misandry, but I would call that separatism. Like the movement who gave us those lovely feminists who said that trans* women were “shemales” and trans* men, or even butch lesbians, were “slaves of the phallocratic patriarchy”.)
(Source: marchingstars, via feathers)
I need feminism because most men’s restrooms still aren’t equipped with baby changing stations. As someone who was married to a man who had sole custody of his young son, I’m hyperaware that feminism means EQUALITY, not female superiority. Feminism should and does support a man’s right to be as much of a parent to his child(ren) as any mother is allowed/expected to be.
This is a constant problem for Mr. Tea and myself. We’ve got twins, so even though I can change one kid on the change table in the ladies’ room, he’s left standing sort of awkwardly in the lobby with a messy child while I change one, come back, and get the other.
Nobody’s suggesting that men aren’t parents, so the lack of change tables goes well beyond ‘gender role reinforcing’ and straight into ‘ridiculous’.
My dad actually almost got kicked out of a mall once for changing my brother in the womens room of a mall. The only reason they didn’t call the cops on him was because the ladies in the room supported him.
Reblogging for all the times I had to sit myself down on a nasty ass toilet and awkwardly try to change my kid’s diaper on my lap.
High time we made genderless bathrooms, thus solving a number of problems at one time. A decade ago finding a changing table in any public toilet in Italy was hard (ikea was an exception).
A number of problems including (a) a notorious trans* and genderqueer people serious issue (b) the looooonger queue at every female toilet during the intermission (less serious, but if it helps achieve the result…).
At my highschool the toilets were officially separated, but since they didn’t have open urinals, just closed stalls, we used them regardless of gender separation. I don’t remember there being any issue with it.
Watch Colin Firth Swear in Italian
A precious video for all of the Italy-lovers English-speakers of Colin Firth explaining the actual meaning of the “bella figura” phrase (which is not at all about how you look but rather about the impression you create).
Knitting and crocheting at the (classic) movies